Boy oh boy! I have been postponing this post! For so many reasons…. Procrastination, finding it hard to decide on a topic. Anyway, finally decided on one and I am in the mood to use my fingers as my tummy hurts. (Yeah, thanks in advance for your sympathy). Sorry to all those who have actually been waiting for this. I just didn’t want to bore you with a boring piece so I hope this is actually worth the wait.
So, the business of the day, Is it worth it? You might be wondering what exactly is worth it or not. I’m talking about life and the things that happen around us. That mediocre love, is it worth it? That grudge, is it worth it? That anger, is it worth it? Holding on to pain, is it worth it?
In my twenty-something years on earth, I have learnt and I am still learning that nothing is worth stealing your joy. Nothing is worth years of regret and pain. Not everything is worth settling for. That’s not why Jesus died. He died so you could live a life of joy. How can you have joy when you’re holding grudges, hurting people, living in sin, settling for less than you deserve? We have to learn how to pick our battles and ensure that it is worth fighting for.
I have come to discover that we all hold on to something. Something that keeps us from fully being ourselves, something that robs us of our joy. It could be pain, guilt, regrets? That act you feel so bad for not doing or doing? That help you refused to render? That man or woman you shouldn’t have loved? That big loss that makes you seek closure so bad? Over and over again, these situations drag us backwards and prevent us from moving forward!
I was reading a book the other day and the phrase caught my attention: “That at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what is happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s biggest lie.”. I couldn’t agree more. We choose to determine what influences us, not fate. Situations will definitely occur but our reaction to the things that happen around us make all the difference. When you brood over disappointments and pain for a long period of time and you fail to move on, then you blame it on fate! We all have to take control of our emotions and move on as life keeps moving on, never waiting for us to catch up.
Let me tell you something dear friend! Live for the moment but live meaningfully. We are only managers here on earth and nothing is really ours. This is why I am re-iterating my question- Is it worth it? No! Each day is a new gift! Forget about yesterday! Live for today! Don’t get me wrong, we could pick up bits and pieces of our past to prepare and mold us for a better future but that should be it! No holding back! Love again, again and again no matter how many times you get hurt, get back up no matter how many times you have failed, find something new about today! There’s always something new. No matter the situation you find yourself in, the only question you should always ask yourself first is “IS IT WORTH IT?”. I promise you, the answer is what you choose to make of it. *wink*